My moment

I put this out there on Facebook the other day and think it’s worth sharing here:

Story time: a mom of 2 boys here: ages 11&9. 11 year old advises that this girl and him are official… you hold hands and hug is official. Cool..got it I remember. I ask If he’s really sure
Because like 3 weeks ago I thought he liked somebody else. And he said yeah I held her hand and I do really like her. And of course I go forward with a mom smirk and leave him be for a few minutes… then i tell him if he starts to see her after school, I want to make sure that I meet her parents. I told him as well that if she didn’t like him anymore or if she No longer wanted to hold his hand or maybe did not feel like hugging him how would he would react…. He said “well that I wouldn’t bother her anymore or if she didn’t feel like being touched i wouldnt touch her. ” And then I said to him good I am glad you understand.
…. I paused… he walked away… I sat and I called him back….
I want you to be young and I want you to have fun. But I also want you to understand that I love you and I don’t ever want you to put yourself in a compromising situation and if you were doing anything that you don’t feel comfortable with you also have the right to say no. And my youngest chimes in and says “everyone has the right to say no mom, duh” and I laughed because…
It really is just that simple with mom’s of boys.
This isn’t to say im not at all scared… this isn’t to say his heart will not break…
But I have been talking to my kids for years about puberty periods penises and vaginas. The world has changed… my 11 yr old self bit the tongue of the first boy who tried to French me bc it was gross and wrong
I literally broke up with him that exact moment … ewwwww
But I recognize that at any moment my kid grows up and I missed the opportunity to tell him….
I love you , you are going to change someone’s life and your heart will break 1000000 times because of hormones. Dont be scared please just be honest. I’ll never judge you I will always be here on a bad day to listen… I want to know when that first kiss changes you… I want you to know and understand what that means..
Just Because I believe in women rights doesn’t mean that I don’t understand the rights of my children as well. Just because I fight for Women’s rights doesn’t mean that I don’t understand that some day maybe my child could be a part of the 2% False accusations. But I know that if I do my best my kids will have a clear path ahead of them into understandingWhat I am fighting for.
And for all of you older adults I want to let you know this is the reality of my generation. This is the reality of how we have to raise our kids. And with the current climate change we don’t even know if we’ll ever actually have the opportunity for grandchildren. We are doing our best and we are fighting that these headlines that bother you, that these things that you don’t believe have happened to majority of us and we are just trying to make sure that our children are not the victims nor the instigators of these situations. And I hope that all mothers out there understand we have an obligation to change the course of history amd never fear the unknown because it is already known due to the Internet. And I am making sure that my kid knows the truth because of me and not because of a YouTube video. If you want people to start taking responsibility for their actions then you start it now.
That is my story and if you made it through this entire post thank you.

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Rachel Miller and Miles

 

Recently Miles had the pleasure of talking to the one and only Rachel Miller. The episode is up on the latest Podcast Archive page, so go CHECK IT OUT! If you have checked it out and are wondering where the hell Miles has been updating the site… well .. I will tell you…

I have been traveling for work and during that travel did not get as much accomplished as I thought I would. Now that I have officially handed in my notice to work and no longer have to travel I can refocus my life on this blog, podcasting, and updates! Isnt that just amazing!!

So in our over 2 hours together Rachel andI had a lot going on and it was epic. I understand for a lot of men it was hard to listen to… and Im not trying to be a bitch, but I am glad it was hard. Life is hard as a woman and sometimes every once in a while you need to understand our frustrations. Get uncomfortable and welcome.

During our podcast Rachel referenced Bell Hooks; a few times; and it is worth  noting. Bell Hooks should be in your book shelf, even if just one book. Rachel recommends the following below : Feminism is for Everybody Passionate Politics by Bell Hooks. So go pick it up!! I have read this partially and I agree.

Also there is a podcast called HIMPATHY  so go catch up on that as well.

http://www.sceneonradio.org/category/men/

Most of all you should check out Rachels own blog, which I find inspiring and amazing, her link

http://www.fochtfamilypractice.com/blog/2018/9/17/raising-boys-in-the-era-of-metoo

ALL OF THIS! AND MORE!

That is right, just when you think I havent recommended enough listen to this

TED TALK that is linked below as well.

Last but not least:

Rachel Miller you started a fire inside of me. I am so grateful for the conversation we had. I feel more confident in knowing you. You will truly change the world–i HOPE THE WORLD LISTENS. Alawys with love

Miles


Okay so the story went something like this

Property

Several weeks ago we ranted and raved about the disfunctions of the town I live in and the one Crawford use to live in. A small town can be many things to many people for certain reasons, some of us do not know why we are still here but we are so we have to take the good with bad. Small towns also can blossom and flourish and again this is a very pro/con situation. When a town starts to develop its sense of self they have this ideal of what their town should be instead of what it actually is. New factories move in, people start to grow their small town businesses, schools start to get upgraded, city streets start to get cleaner, and things over all from an outside perspective seem … hunky dory. (where did that phrase come from? is that an Ohio thing?)

However outside perception is just that and from inside point of view you start to see all the problems. New factories have gone up but wages stagger, cost of living goes up but again wages stagger, the places that were easy and conveinent for those middle to lower class folk start to move more and more to the outside of the town limits and suddenly you need taxis to get any where you use to be able to on foot. New small businesses are great but again they are priced for prosperity and located in an area of where the money makers work so they can spend their cash quickly and efficently while feeling good that they are shopping small. Taxis are great, but when its just one company their prices can be a bit hard on the folks who don’t have the means to even buy a car in the first place. The growth of businesses does not always mean a growth of things to do besides shop, eat, and spend money you don’t have which puts children at risk of boredum and therefore they find ways to occupy their minds that aren’t always the most productive. We have no arcardes, not one really damn good book store, and though the coffee shops are great only one really feels like home. There is a lot of pro and a lot of con where I live and I stay here because well–I have two boys who I know will like to push the boundaries of my parental guidance and when they decide to do something stupid there is not a street, back alley, or hiding spot that I did not already explore once myself. I will catch you when you are out past curfew and I will find you when you are not where you are supposed to be. I am a mother and by nature I am a hunter for my young which means I can also hunt my young and sniff them out of every corner of this town. This may not be a great analogy for it, but it is the truth. I live here because I know the schools, I know the kids, I know the views of most parents here, I know a lot of things about the intricacies of this town and therefore it has brought me some stupid feeling of security. NO ONE IS SAFE ANY MORE—yeah I get your talk–but for me I get to live in my lala land okay?

Past all of these things we have a town that is ran by a Mayor that is our first female Mayor in history. She has done a lot for this town in forms of bringing in new business, but besides that her “bed side manner”isn’t exactly all what she proclaims it to be. She simply had an idea of what she wanted her town to look like and has gone forth with her vision no matter what her town says, because well we keep reelecting her. We are extremly republican, with a republican female mayor and we have an entire city council made of republicans and therefore whatever goes on gets done. There is a sense of transparency, don’t get me wrong, its one thing I will give them, they do try to make things transparent even if it doesnt seem like it. There is not as many back alley deals as there is in in other places, but there is also this sense of injustice here. We have some weird homicides that have never been looked at since the day they happened, we have a lot of fires that involve old buildings ran by the same person, and we have a lot of unexplained deaths that dont get coronor reports for months and months. We also have a lot of privalege here and if you have you it you dont notice it, but when you dont have it you can see it plain as day.  So when the case of 830 E. Sandusky Street came up it was all too clear how our mayor intends to run this town. So here it is how it began:

A gentleman who lives in our town (Leguire property) bought a house a few years ago that is our flood zone and was had access to his house during flooding only through the rear enterance of his yard. His back yard happens to go by two streets that have been out of use for a long time now and have been completely overgrown. This gentleman and his very large family live a very authentic lifestyle, they do a lot of their own planting, herbal growing, and a lifestyle that is not what some of us would consider ‘normal’. but I am not here to judge because after all freedom right? He was having some problems with a neighbor who did not approve of his ability to let weeds grow; mind you he lets some of these grow for the insects and bugs that this is natural food for; and this neighbor started ot just make things difficult. In order to help this neighbor not have to see what was going on a fence was being built, but now that means that nosey neighbor couldnt peer over and compalin any more so the neighbor went to the mayor. This was at first what many towns would see as a neighborhood dispute–but not our town. No our town got invovled because someones mother is friends with the Mayor and advised that she needed to get involved. So she did. Not only did our mayor come onto this gentlemans property in the middle of afternoon hoping he wasnt home, she even took up vacating streets AFTER the inspectors for such said this was an unnecessary act to do. She has done just about everything to make this family life very hard, and even when he confronted her about it she advised that perhaps it would be in his best interest to move to some other town where people like him would be more accepted.
Yeah you can read that last line again, it still bothers me to no end.
So when the vacating of the street starting to happen democracy for once took action. Him and his family went around door knocking, walking the pavements,and got enough signature on his petition that it would stop the mayor and her actions for now.Which is amazing what happens when ordinary citizens take actions in their hands and start doing the dirty work themselves. Don’t worry, she is trying to put a new definition of RIGHT OF WAY on streets and what vacating streets will now allow, because if she does lose this she will make sure she doesnt lose any more. (Sigh)
Does this all sound quite trite to you? It almost doesnt even seem like a thing we should make a blog about? But see that is where you are wrong. Small towns make up a lot of view points and they are bored the most so they are the ones online trolling people with their thoughts, opinions, and grandmas best recipes. They are the ones who are doing a lot of hard work, making efforts in their towns that go unnoticed nationally. When you make a difference locally it turns into a bigger and broader scale. I am quite proud of this little action from a gentleman and his family who showed our town that we can change the way this town works if we got off our computers long enough to make it happen. Though I did not do this story any justice, there is a lot to read up on it so please go visit his facebook page and watch the videos, and see for yourself what he has done.

https://www.facebook.com/830-E-Sandusky-St-1037135936435295

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https://www.facebook.com/pg/830-E-Sandusky-St-1037135936435295/photos/?ref=page_internal

 

 

Back at it! Promise this time!

Hey guys its been a while sincce we have updated with an actual blog post. The podcast archive page will be updated by the weekend and life will at some point become normal for us again. We are not normal, so I am not even sure how normal anything can be any more.
There is a renewed sense of life going on and little by little Crawford and I are gtting our selves in a place where we can really go back to the dedication. We know its been hard waiting patiently by, but have no fear, we really are back!
Season 3 kicks off with the same variety and ridiculousness as usual with some sentimental emotion comings as well. We are working on interviews, time lines, and hopefully of course a PODSGIVING with some local pods! OOOOOOOO wouldn’t that just be the bees knees??? Do bees even have kees?
I am truly behind in an update about our local politics, in fact we have been talkinga bout it for so long that it deserves its own blog post, and yes, in fact that too is coming by this weekned.
We appreciate all the love we have received and we love watching our listen numbers increase little by little.
We have been working on a lot of things on the side and can not wait for them to come together. Until the next post–WHICH WILL BE SOON I PROMISE–thank you for always looking out for us.
Also to the great PODCAST PANDEMONIUM fantasy league–WE ARE GOING TO WIN THIS WEEK … maybe.. hopefully… ehhhh….. lets see…

Episode 34: Rant Cast! Public Shaming, Parenting and In God We Trust!

Episode 34:: Signing off and saying farewell:

This week we sign off on Season 2. Miles is going away on a business trip, Crawford will be filling in solo style or with friend interviews!! How much fun!!

We start off with Miles saying farewell to one of her favorite podcast hosts Chris from @Dopeypodcast #dopeynation #staystrong

Crawford dives into some really interesting facts and figures of #publicshaming  #freerangeparenting gets brought up as well

http://brewminate.com/a-history-of-shaming-in-america-and-its-modern-revival/

Miles goes on a damn tangent as usual

Apologies.. There is a lot of cussing and anger

Then they talk about in God We Trust, Equality and

This week they feature the promotion of @STPaulFilmcast their information can be found here

http://stpaulfilmcast.podbean.com/

https://twitter.com/STPaulFilmcast

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Episode 33: Tacos, Scary Times, Ask Reddit & What?

Episode #33 HODGEPODGE OF LIFE! MC talk TACOS! Reddit stories, real life small town living, a few mild rants about government, and of course there is nothing but complete VARIETY in this HOUR long podcast. Thank you for your votes! #podernfamily #nophonypodcastnetwork Shoutout to @basketcasepod #gofundme www.gofundme.com/help-for-heroin-addicts #wlipodpeeps #ladypodsquad www.nophonynetwork.com
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