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#METOO spread like wildfire over the weekend and continues to have a serious impact on the news feed, but this time all major news sources. I am glad that there was a lot of coming out, a lot of stories, and most of all a lot of transparency. I wish that 10 years ago when this movement was first started it was just as important, but I guess because it wasn’t #METOO has become even more today. There is a to say about my girlfriends who posted their stories or just the symbol; there is, even more, to say about the men who fought them on it. I was disgusted at their anger for not being included, and I tried to sympathize to a few of them who called themselves allies but really they were just bullies.

I won’t forget you assholes who made coming out on this day more difficult for women, and I won’t forget you assholes who made coming out a thing in the first place. It doesn’t make me a sexist; I was called a sexist 10 different times the other day; for calling you out for taking the limelight. Being a victim of sexual misconduct and harassment is not a light you want to take, I promise you that. I know men are molested, I know they are raped, and I know that in almost every single case that a woman has come forward about rape there is immediately (go look at some past sites’ timing of their articles) about what to do as a man when you are raped. It is almost immediately after a woman announces that she was victim of sexual violence in any manner that there is a follow up on how men should feel as victims too. I am not angry about this, but I know it is a way to tell the ladies that what they are going through; what they are coming out with; can also happen to other sexes so don’t feel like its just about you okay? I know that these articles are for inclusion but sometimes… just sometimes… standing for solidarity is in fact about a singular moment happening. So I want to take this time to SHOUT OUT to KatyKatiKate, this article was a high-five, hug, love, and cheers all wrapped up in one. And for that, I thank her for being a voice that I was trying to be but could not .
Read her article here

We can not follow up #metoo sadly enough because as I write this very article another woman will be raped and more than likely her rape kit will go un-tested and maybe even her story will never be told. We can not follow up #metoo while we still have several dozen sexual predators including our own president leading the world into silence. We can not follow up #metoo because we allow this behavior from men on so many other platforms. We can not follow up #metoo because the stories that are out there are being silenced right now by politics, killings, racism, and hate. There is no follow up there is only change. I hope that this will lead to change. I do feel …I do fear.. that we will become complacent again. That we will continue to allow these stories to unfold and we will become desensitized as we always have and move on with our day saying that we can do nothing to help. I want change and I want to see change and I want to hear change and I want our laws to change and I want our government to change. There is a lot of wants, a lot of demands, and even after 3 million women went to the streets in January not much actually changed besides the tone of voices of the opposition.  Remember to listen to keywords in the next few days if not weeks, find your helpers and seek those who want to understand. Actions are always louder than words.

Thank you– To every woman who stepped forward who shared their story, who believed their friend, who struggled to watch their news feed, and who cried with us. Thank You– to those who remained silent in their own pain, who can not share their truth, who can not bare their soul to social media, we stand with you too.  And I hope and I pray that I never have to see another #metoo but I know I will and I hope when I do that we have made some stride for ourselves. I wish us all the luck and stay strong even if not for yourself for others too.

I love you, I believe in you, and I know you are not lying.