I am not on any side of any aisle. I am not on your side or their side, I am not red nor blue nor green, I am not fitting in some kind of box or check marked for a certain way. I believe in compromise and understanding even if I disagree. I believe that all voices matter, except ones that trigger pure hate. I am not talking about the kind of hate where you get really angry and then walk away going about your day okay? I am talking about the kind of hate speech that makes someone do an act of violence. That kind of hate has no place in my brain or in my heart. I am open to listening to any conservative, republican, liberal, independent, democratic, or a simpleton view. I am curious in to why you think the way you do, what kind of pedestal you stand on and what gave you the power to stand there.
Maybe you have a sense of power that came from your family or maybe because you believe that a book or a verse or a piece of legislation has in fact given that power/growth to stand so tall where you do. I just want to know why? Why are you against something so much? Why do you get so angry about something that I don’t understand? We are all here to learn from one another country to country, language barriers and all, we are here to learn. We are here to process emotions and evolve our life span by the encounters around us. We are here to be with one another for some reason in space and time and I just want to know who you are.
I don’t always agree with what you say and you may never agree with what I have to say, we may not actually come into a place of compromise but can we not just sit down and try? If perhaps my point of view could halt yours; even for a mere moment; wouldn’t that be great? If you could prove to me your point and even if I dont agree with it I choose to accept it, wouldn’t that be nice?
“But you can not agree with them on any measure what so ever” has been a line I have heard over a dozen times. I just don’t understand it though. I really don’t understand why we can’t talk to someone who is against what we believe, what harm does it do to me if they are not actually attacking me? If they are not being emotionally or physically abusive then why can’t I listen to where they are coming from? I will question them if I have questions and I will ask, don’t you worry, but what harm does it do just to listen?
If it won’t change me and all it does is anger me, then I have the right to walk away from that. If what they say seems absurd I can simply quit listening and go into a nice compartment I made in my brain and hang out there until its my turn to walk away or rebuttal. To put up a wall of “wrong” before you break down the wall of what they feel is right is pointless. Nothing gets accomplished that way.
I do not like our politics or our divide in this nation right now because we all think we have some special place just for ourselves. We don’t believe there is a place for every one. We don’t believe that listening and compromise is possible because we are told to not compromise at all. I know there is a lot of vindictive pieces of shit out there right now and there are people who feel empowered that shouldn’t be but they are. I can’t stop them myself and we have yet to stop them by just telling them NO and to SHUT UP and to consistently tell someone what they believe doesn’t matter. Every time there is a celebration of anything someone comes a long and says YOU CANT BE HAPPY ABOUT THIS BECAUSE OF THIS REASON….. but I can be happy. How if we can find a path to walk on together right? Like I’m not saying we lose or they lose whoever we and they are, but maybe we need to find a path that we can walk down together first and find out where the road actually does divide. Sometimes paths don’t even divide.. have you walked in the woods? You can be split off by some trees and leaves but you can both end up on the same plot of land even after you went a different way. There are ways of finding each other even if its not the same way…. does that even make sense?
I don’t know who to believe or to fight for outside of what I know in my human soul is right. I know what I want for humanity and the list is very long and its not going to get accomplished this year and it may not get accomplished in my lifetime. I think opening the dialect of conversation though is the most important way for my list to be met. I might have to give up a few extra dollars or maybe I have to let something get passed in the government that I don’t like to make sure that the greater good is met. This isn’t some kind of ….. giving in… its… sometimes just receiving a different life.
Of course I want equality and I want people to come to our country and of course I don’t want any more debts or wars or unnecessary spending. Of course I don’t like big pharma and I really don’t like a majority of people who the country has elected, but with the hand that I am given I would like to see what I can change. I think if we all understood that we can change by not standing on one side or the other of the aisle, but instead standing inside the aisle together we can each push a few things out to the sides and find a way to come to an agreement. We are virtually shutting people out of medical help, financial assistance, and a guaranteed free life just because someone said ‘DO NOT COMPROMISE FOR ANY REASON’.
Compromise made all of us–marriages, relationships, friendships, even work ethic has all been made possible by compromise. You don’t always get what you want but if you give a little something and they give a little something both of you can find something to live with.
It seems like every time a question is even asked as to why someone feels some way they do they go into some insane frothing at the mouth rant about how someone is a fucking snowflake piece of shit blah blah blah….
dude… it was a question just trying to see where you are coming from thats all…. just putting some cards out on table and wondering why you chose the one you did.
I think if we all just learned to respect those who give us respect, if we give someone a slight chance at opportunity to feel existed we could go a long way. Give people a chance; except those true to racist bigot mother fuckers; and understand we are all changing and trying to learn to change.
This blog was written in response to conversations via social media. Simple questions became crass responses when they were in all actuality just a question. Both crass responses apologized for being crass assuming that I was somehow attacking what they had to say.
I realized.. people initiate anger and being misunderstood before they initiate kindness and love. It bothered me that two people would assume I am some kind of asshole mostly because they know who I am. I have done the same on social media.. taken content out of context and I am working on changing that and I hope you will too.